If you can first agree on a few issues, custody X Change allows you to establish a provisional custody agreement on which you can rely in mediation. They may also be asked to draw up a list of the main issues to be addressed. At this stage, the Ombudsman will facilitate discussions on these issues and try to help you reach an agreement. Finally, if you and your ex are able to reach an agreement on one of the problems you are trying to solve and if you wish to establish a formal written agreement, the Ombudsman will help you. His research priorities are conflict resolution with young children, mediation, rewarding studies and models of systemic peace-building. She has published several articles on child care mediation, teaching preschoolers to resolve their own conflicts, and transformative teacher training. She is a biographer in Who`s Who in American Women and Who`s Who in America. While we agree that the use of the traditional mediation model to negotiate custody of high-conflict families could be fraught with challenges, there are many arguments in favour of an attempt at mediation rather than controversial litigation. Pearson and Thoennes (1986) argue that mediation will not turn enemy couples into cooperatives or eliminate future conflicts, but is considered a less damaging intervention than the court.
Murray (1999) agrees that children with a large division of conflicts can benefit from a lack of potentially harmful effects of the adversarial approach. Lund (1995) believes that it is important to reduce conflict in conflict in the case of PAS, so that children are not involved in their parents` conflicts. A mediator can be successful in helping inflexible parents respond to changes in visitation plans and other situations that require cooperative interaction between parents (Lund 1995, p. 315). Perhaps both parents seem ready and able to continue the mediation process, and they will likely benefit from family therapy to help them navigate their family`s changing structure. In this case, the Mediator or A.A. may recommend that parents work closely with a psychiatric specialist over the next two months. If this is the case, the third mediation session could be scheduled after the family has had more time with the psychiatric specialist. Sometimes, after entering into an agreement or court order, the situation changes and the order no longer works for your children.